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How to (Politely) Talk to Your Partner About Their Snoring

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Is your partner’s snoring keeping you awake? Here’s how to (kindly) bring it up for discussion.

Are you someone who routinely finds themselves awake, staring up at the ceiling at night due to your partner's snoring? If so, you’re not alone. In fact, a 2005 survey done by the National Sleep Foundation found that 26 percent of respondents said they lost some sleep because of their partner’s sleep issues (including snoring).

If you share a bed with someone who snores, it’s important to talk to them about it, not just because it may be messing with your own shut-eye but because it could be a sign of a bigger health issue for them.

Here are a few things to keep in mind so that everyone benefits from the conversation!

Avoid Starting the Conversation When You’re Frustrated

A surefire way to put your partner on the defensive is to start the conversation around their snoring after you’ve had a bad night of sleep, or when you’re in an otherwise unhappy mood. Consider bringing up their snoring — and how it affects you — when you’re both in upbeat, positive moods. Use “I statements” (such as “I am not sleeping that well at night, and I think it could be connected to your snoring”) to help minimize defensiveness and hostility on their end.

Help Them Find Possible Solutions

When you decide to bring up the conversation around your partner’s snoring, consider having some possible solutions ready, so your partner can feel like you’re both in this thing together. In addition to simple remedies that may help ease snoring, like asking them to start sleeping on their side, or offering to raise the head of the bed up a few inches (if your bed is adjustable), Breathe Right strips are drug-free and clinically proven to instantly relieve occasional nighttime nasal congestion.

Show Them You Care About Their Health

While occasional snoring can be due to allergies or a cold, persistent snoring can be a sign of a bigger health issue, such as sleep apnea. Do your best to let your partner know you’re bringing up their snoring because you want them to be as healthy as possible, and offer to go with them to get a medical professional’s opinion.

Just because snoring is common, doesn’t mean it has to be a constant headache for you and the one you love. Being proactive, kind, and having a sense of humor when discussing ways to ease its grasp on both you and your partner can lead to positive solutions and a stronger relationship overall!